Let us Love like morons
Feasting hurriedly on this passion
Before the heartbreak of Sunset
Love is not too big a risk
If lack of it is the alternative there is
Hey
Don't feel silly
Don't be shy
Only fools can Love genuinely
Others, with all their might, may only try
Eventually, perhaps, they'll laugh,
And maybe you'll regret a little or cry
But a laugh though loud will cease
And tears before dawn, surely will dry
So, come, my love
Let us Love like children,
playing in the sands and the rains
Of possibilities
Let us love fervently
Through differences and offences
Enjoying lavishly all the beauty
And pleasure there is to gain
Let us,
Before the troubles, heartaches
And enemies of glee awake
Launch far from the reach
of fear and wisdom
For wise men can't love, my dear
So, come now
Let us love how we must
Let us Love like homeless, helpless, morons!
Monday, December 5, 2022
Love Like Morons
Merciless!
Why do you torment me
Ravaging my attention
With the poise of your lips
And with colours, contours and motions
that sink my composure
Look at the blush on your cheeks
And the brilliance of your smile
Whisperings, things only my heart can hear
From millions of miles away
My doom is clear,
Your dimples have made my ruin complete
There is certainly no hope for me now, my dear
Where did you forge your sword
How did you craft your spears
When did you stretch your arm
Tell me, please
Why do you thrust so deep
While we yet speak
Why is your beauty so pure and merciless
When my poor defenseless soul already submits
Now I must desire you, or nothing else
Oh! Look how hopeless I have become
My dear, tell me
Why did you do this
Why have you done this absolutely beautiful thing to me
Wednesday, October 12, 2022
A Penny for Your Friend
"Bro, that person is not your friend"
"An acquaintance, maybe, but definitely not your friend."
That was the response I got after my narration. And perhaps, that was all I needed to fix up.
I needed to face the truth, head on. I love friendships. But, las las, all friend no be friend. It is what it is!
The term "friend" these days refers to many sorts of relationships. Many, quite unworthy of the title in its true sense.
Because, the truth is, genuine friendship has significant cost implications (time, inconvenience, clear communication, commitment, vulnerability, accountability, thoughtfulness and empathy, emotional and material sacrifices).
Not all "friends" signed up for these, really.
What some people truly seek is a convenient association, an activity partner, a standby companion, an on-call helper, a social buddy, a friendly colleague or jovial acquaintance, etc. And you can't really blame them for wanting what they want.
So, don't be too quick to set up friendship expectations purely based upon your own idealisation. Don't be too hard on people, and on yourself. Be careful to resist the urge of assuming that your idea of the "friendship" is the same as the other party's, to avoid 'friendship frustration'.
If you are a friendship lover, like me, your heart may make this a little hard. But try. If you pay attention enough, you can eventually realise the proper definition of what exists between you guys, and you can intentionally adjust your expectations or investments accordingly.
It may be a little heartbreaking or disappointing, but nobody will die! Rather, you will be better guided and definitely less stressed. You will be alright, las las.
Life is complex enough. Friendship should make it easier, right?
Happy Friendship-ing!
Tuesday, February 18, 2020
Love At Third Sight
Some years later. My brother somehow happened to get more familiar with her and her family and that eventually led to me establishing a rapport with her too. For a brief period I became something like a big brother. She had just rounded off secondary school (high school) and was planning for Uni. I was already in Uni, so there was a lot to talk about (And,as you probably already know, I like to talk), and she liked it. We would sit in at our house and gist a lot. We hung out once or twice. Had some really cool moments. I also attended one or two of their family events. Good times. But holiday was over, I had to go back to school. She had to start Uni. Life happened.
But not immediately. I got back to school feeling like I liked her. I remember my roommate and flatmates teasing me a couple of times then. They were certain I had 'caught' something which I returned with to school. According to them something was making me happy and it definitely had something to do with my summer break in Nigeria and that picture I recently placed on my corner of the wall of my small room. (Yes o, I put up her picture. Nope, she never knew about it). While I wouldn't admit that they were right, I couldn't deny I liked the idea of having her around and in my thoughts. At least for a while. Although I had tried a lot to convince myself that "we're family friends." " she's just like the younger sister I didn't have." "I'm just very proud of her." My roommate wasn't buying it. And frankly, I can't say I was totally convinced myself. But that phase didn't last forever. Like I said, life happened and for many years we basically went out of touch.
I had returned Nigeria after Uni. Our parents weren't quite in the same space anymore. She was in a different city, studying. I did NYSC, travelled for my masters. Returned. Started working. Many years went by. I honestly didn't quite have her on my mind anymore (nor was I having any girl other on my mind). Everyone was dealing with life, trying to make progress and secure a good future. I had now been in some relationships that didn't work out. I think I had also heard something about her being in a serious relationship that was about to lead to marriage, or so. Well, Time passed sha.
Then recently (I won't tell you how recently lol) my brother sent me her number to contact her regarding some information my family needed. She seemed in a position to help. I called. We talked a bit, but mostly about the matter for which my brother passed me her number. It wasn't very convenient to talk well so agreed to defer the talk to a better time. A few days passed. Then suddenly, and very coincidentally, our paths crossed again.
One fine morning. I was about to take a commercial vehicle. As I walked closer, someone called out my name; the name I was known by as a child. Ghen ghen! I was pleasantly surprised. It was her! We were about to get into the same vehicle. She was dressed very very simply and casually. Yet looked so good. At least to me. She sounded quite welcoming, lively and happy to see me too. We hugged. She quickly introduced me to her aunt who was with her. It felt so good to see her again. Wow! It's been ages! Mehn..."why does this feel so good?" I probed within myself. It didn't take too many minutes and I already felt like something was happening to my system. Something had sprung to life in me. She still sounds so jovial, so smart and so herself. She still likes my gisting. She still has quite a good memory of the past. She's still a lot of what I used to like about her. I like this girl! Lord is this a sign? Is this love at third sight?
I quickly sent my brother a text, telling him who I'd just met and how it felt good seeing her. He replied with 'haha' and a smiley. I know what that means. That's like "all the best bro" or "don't forget to give me update o". Anyways, she had no clue what was happening. We just gisting and kept rying to catch up while on the trip. Although I had become a lot calmer within me by the end of the trip, it definitely wasn't the end of what was happening inside of me. There was something about this girl that had me latched on so fast, well and joyfully. I'm liking her. I'm wanting to rebuild our once-upon-a-time fondness. Lord, is this your handiwork? Did you just mercifully set this up to help my 'ministry' ? ('Cos I was starting to lose energy for this whole relationship thing o). Mehn... Lord, "shall we pursue...?" I need You to help me here o, I prayed that same evening. Very seriously. I cannot afford to 'jones' mehn.
Obviously she isn't married yet so there's still a good chance, right? But what if she's engaged already, or in a very serious relationship? What if she still likes me, but not quite that way? What if she's just being very nice and welcoming as a person or for old times sake? Many thoughts rushed through my head as I contemplated how best to proceed with her. Maybe just try and stay friends for now? Won't it be time wasting, since she's an adult now and seemingly very ripe for something serious and long term (marriage)? What if some sharper guy grabs her while I'm still trying to just be friends first? Lord, help me here manhn. I didn't stop praying.
To cut the story short, we've had some really long phone calls. We've hung out once already and it went quite well. We stayed out quite late and still gisted outside her house for a while before we finally called it a night. We've also talked about some past events and including some past relationships. I've learnt a bit more about her now. And I still like her a lot. I want to keep this going. I want to keep talking, hang out some more and get closer. But now she's in another relationship. So, this young man is in a tricky place.
Is it still okay to keep pushing for this closeness I so much desire? Should I just tell her how I feel asap and leave the ball in her court? Would that be fair? Should I just be a friend and communicate the "I really like you and want something more" in other non-verbal ways?
The Bible says "In the multitude of counsel, there is safety."
So what's your counsel?
Wednesday, July 10, 2019
Penitent's Plea
This is not that kind of sin
To request forgiveness is
To thrust some more in
The knife that pierced her skin
I'm sorry Father
For the hurt my thoughts might bring
A tender innocent soul
That does surely not deserve
The lust my depths conceal
To ask for mercy is luxury
I know I even remotely can't afford
Just grant me you will
Catch her precious heart
When I miss my step and fall
Tuesday, July 9, 2019
Look What you've Done
Till you smiled
In that pretty long dress
Everything changed!
There standing
A two-legged tripod
I became. Hypnotised
By the scent of your candid soul
And corners of your gorgeous frame
The steady texture of your tones
Enticing me more
This is chaos!
But please stay
Let's take one more sip of chance
Let's drive some more into the night
Give me a moment more to try
To find my feet again
I'll say goodnight tomorrow
If today was just a dream
Till then I'll embrace these shadows
Wow!
Look what you've done to me.
Hard Chase
You elude me
Charmed by your light
Hey, hello, hi, Excuse me
Exquisitely striding on
Yet effortlessly
You confuse me
With confidence and beauty
So elegant yet subtly
You refuse me
O, virtous woman!
Just a word or two
Let me hear you speak to me
You just might want this too
And If perharps you're shy
Then maybe just a nod would do
But don't expect I'll go
Before you taste my love for you
(Originally written 7th May, 2019)
Dead Men Don't Dance
Paced steadily towards doom
Ten thousand men
From different ends of reality
charging into another
Breaths heavy as bricks
Hearts dipped in blood
Destiny came to spill
Today. This moment. Nothing Next.
Darkness everywhere
No future to see
But the fading soul of a fellow man
The widow and orphan in his eyes
The gates pf another hell
And the power of god
In the swing of my right arm
His farewell was brief
My tone, thirsting for water
Stuggles to forget the taste of blood
As five-year old innocence approaches
Proudly, swingong a wooden sword
Rejoicing with a tune on her lips
"Dance, Papa. Dance!"
"We crushed our enemies like ants"
No words to say
No muscle clould harken
All I saw was tears filling my eyes
How can she ever understand
Dead men dont dance!
(Originally written 5th June, 2019)
Never So Much
Seed and Juice
The seed and the juice
To split or to choose
We split and we lose
Your choice was the juice
Yout thought I'll refuse
But I didn't
Give me the seed
I have some faith
I'll put in some work
It will take some time
But I'll give you the sweetest juice
And I'll show you a fruit-ful plantation
Then you will call me a blessed man
I will smile in reply
"My brother, na God o!"
(Originally written 05/06/2019)
Thursday, June 6, 2019
Things I Want
Saturday, March 2, 2013
Learn!
Quit apologies
Quit excuses and learn!
Quit justifications and 'self-pathy'
Quit all this rubbish!
Learn!
There's no missing it here
Now or later
This life or after
Willfully or not
but certainly.
You must Learn!
I'm Sorry
I'm sorry for being who I was
I'm sorry for doing what I wouldn't
And sorry for doing what I did
I'm very sorry and even more ashamed
For crushing your trust and bringing you pain
I admit the terrible decision I made
I feel the guilt like blood through my vain
An ocean of apology is grossly insufficient
And would any other words I attempt to say
So please accept my deepest regret
If forgiveness is too much to ask today
I'm very sorry I looked so trustworthy all along
Earned your trust then eventually proved you wrong
I'm sorry for the first words I ever spoke to you
I'm sorry for the good, the bad and all I've ever done to you
Say Something
Or say no
But don't say nothing
Say what's on your mind
But don't say everything's okay
Or that you're fine
Don't always be hoping
I'll wait to find out with time
Say it now
Lest I make silence your crime
Say what you want or what is wrong
Say what you think or wish be done
I can't promise I'll surely incline to all you have to say
But still i crave you speak them clearly today
Say something, take the risk, escape the danger
That I'll eventually become your closest stranger
For one day, this silence I'll cease to condemn
And find the prospect of peace in them
Say yes
Or say no
But just say something
Because I love you
I'm whole hardheartedly inviting you now
Friday, June 29, 2012
My Life
I've hardly earned anything...
the breath I breathe,
the days I've lived,
the wonderful people I've known,
the opportunities I've had,
the 'successes' I've enjoyed,
the cash I've spent,
the respect I've received.
Probably why many times I take them for granted
And mess things up really bad before I know it.
Absolutely why I really can't complain if someohow I lose it all.
I never really deserved anything
The only claim I can make is being loved
And a promise that I'll always be
This is no poem!...This is my life!
Saturday, May 26, 2012
That Was The Plan!
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Don't Trust Me
I thought I knew myself but too often was I wrong
Too often I found weakness in places I thought I was strong
Please do not trust me
I've badly bruised the ones I honestly love
And often broken their hearts with mine
I've made vows with words of extreme confidence
And watched them to lies incline
So let me beg you... while you love me
Please do not trust me
Please realise,
I am very imperfect
But my blemishes seem to hide perfectly
Beneath my pursuit of a better me
I'm thankful for the good you may have seen
But I'm honestly not proud of who sometimes I have been
I thought I knew myself but too often was I wrong
Too often I found weakness in places I thought I was strong
But the truth is one thing I'll always owe to you.
Only trust me if God clearly promised you could
.
Thursday, February 16, 2012
I Fear
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Psalm 151
For You have covered my frailty with favour and my mistakes with mercy
With loving kindness You have rebuked my doubtfulness and upon me have You generously showered Your grace.
Oh! How vile you will be, oh my soul, to distrust the Lord one more day
How wicked you will be to question Him yet again
Has He not rescued thee from the shadow of uncertainty?
Has He not performed beyond what you deserve?
Rejoice, my soul, rejoice!
Sing praise to His name evermore and forget not His benefits.
For He has spared you from the shame that awaited like a snare
And from the deceit of self-belief He has saved you
To them who may have asked secretly "now where is his God?," He has replied
Even to your inner probings, has He responded
Many trust in horses and chariots
On the sweat of their head and the strain of their muscles do they rely
But in You oh Lord do I trust!
On You oh Lord do I depend
For You are good and Your way is ALWAYS perfect.
Blessed be the Lord, My God!